Chiradeep

Love & Crush VS Teenagers



Posted: Sunday, August 21, 2011

by Chiradeep
e-Counseling

Love is the most beautiful and wonderful emotion. Love drives, motivates, and makes a person humble. But sometimes love becomes a sickness when it’s not in the right track and when it’s not really love but just infatuation.

When I was in school I had an infatuation towards a girl and one day by mistake I uttered something in front of my friends regarding that girl. My friends used to tease me and blackmail me for that one statement that I made. But I clearly remember that I had strong feelings towards that girl. Later it subsided or suppressed automatically but it controlled me so much that it had affected me many ways adversely.

When we teenagers fall in love or have a crush on somebody we forget what we are, what’s our priority, how are we going to react etc. falling in love or having a crush on somebody is natural. But teenager is not the right time to give air to all these because of THREE major factors. I call it PER-Factors.  Those factors can be our eye openers, which are as under:

PRIORITY Factor: As teenagers we have only one priority and that’s ‘our study’, because at this stage we neither work nor establish home. At this stage we all are students and our main aim or object is ‘Study.’ When the position of this priority shifts from number one to any other position we should be sure that we are going to spoil our academic career, which can affect our future heavily because at this stage we decide whether we are going to be a ‘bus driver’ or ‘pilot’.

Love is a strong emotion.
“Love is the most beautiful and wonderful emotion. Love drives, motivates, and makes a person humble.”
Falling in love or crush on somebody may cause a shift on our priorities. That’s why we should be aware of our emotion and control it though we cannot avoid it.

EMOTIONAL Factor: As teenagers we are not emotionally matured. We are quick to take hasty decisions that need time, we can be easily angered, we are vulnerable to depression, stress and we are very bad in handling break-ups.

Love or crush can make us a slave or prey to our emotion. It’s very difficult for the adults to handle this emotion, which can be more difficult for us teenagers. Today many youth or adolescent commits suicide for all this relationship or emotional problems.

RESPONSIBILITY Factor: at this stage we are not mature enough to take responsibility, as we are not experienced in life. Falling in love is great. Having a crush on somebody is natural and fine, but the responsibility that which is demanded in such relationships is huge, difficult, and sometimes impossible to handle for a teenager like us.

We can execute those responsibilities only when we have enough experiences and we are matured, but not in a growing stage as now.

All these situations arise when we are not focused on our AIM in life, although we cannot give guarantee about our emotions. We should always be ready to ask help or take somebody who is experienced to our confidence when situation arises like this.

One last thing to remember as the Bible tells us that “for every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”

Dear young friends! Let’s wait for the right TIME.

Stay Blessed!
Chiradeep Patra, is an Accountant in a Non-Govt Organization in India. He is married and blessed with a beautiful wife by his side.

He is an author and have written many articles for webzines and magazines.

He is a Psychological Counselor who deals with the following matters: Stress Management, Teenage & Adolescent Problems, Love, Crush & Relationship Problems, Depression & Anxiety Problem (not clinical), Personality Building & Development, Healthy Mental Living Matters, Spiritual & Biblical Matters etc.

He owns a website: www.asmideep.webs.com

Contacting e-Mail: chiradeepp@gmail.com

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» left by Polly from Minnesota 263 days 17 hours ago.
I totally agree.. the teens today..and/or adults.. need to learn 'mature' love

with all the the unconditional Agape.. LOVE.. that GOD gives in HIS WORD.too..

A three stranded cord is not easily broken..

a couple that believes in GOD.. and has it's belief's grounded in JESUS and HIS WORD.. can have their relationship and marriage.. succeed. Amen.
» left by Chiradeep 263 days 15 hours ago.
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Thanks Sister Polly for reading and commenting...I appreciate it.

Agape Love is much needed in this world today...

Regards, Chiradeep
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