An Adolescent in the Family
Posted: Friday, August 19, 2011
by Chiradeep
e-Counseling
During our adolescent or teenage time, dealing with family members is most difficult and vital. We fight with our siblings. Stop talking with our dads, and argue with moms. But we need to remember that apart from Him, family is the only true support system that God has established on this earth to sustain us, uphold us and guide us. We can’t think of staying other than our family members.
Being obedient to our elders
As a teenager, it can be challenging to be obedient whether it is to your parents or any elderly relative in your family, even God wants that we should be obedient to our parents. The Bible says, ‘Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.’
Fulfill their expectation: so many times, we think that we are obedient but actually, we are not. Either we delay to obey or just to do it with a wrong spirit or attitude. Our parents expect us to be obedient but in a right attitude.
Reason of their expectation: obedience will be complete when we understand why they expect us to do something. Then only we can do it or be obedient wholeheartedly, otherwise we just do a thing for doing sake. Our parents are more experienced than us, as they have seen life’s ups and downs more than us. They can foresee many things much better than us.
Understand the benefit of obedience: Obedience has manifold benefits and blessings. Don’t you like to receive blessings? Don’t you like to live longer in life? The Bible says that, ‘obedience can increase your days on this earth.’
Our obedience to our parents and elders pleases our heavenly father, because the Bible says, ‘children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.’
What do you think young friends? Should we not be obedient to please our heavenly father?
Keeping Healthy Relationship
Do we turn to our parents or friends for help, when we face problems as teenagers? We always need to understand this fact that our parents are much more experienced than our friends to help us in serious problems and they love us more than our friends do. Yes it is true that we expect them to step forward towards us as a friend but why to think their part, let’s do our part first, make them our friends. It’s very simple.
With our fathers:fathers are always tough going; they demand discipline, and obedience from us. They scold us when we do wrong or do not fulfill their expectations. But they love us too. And they want us to be successful in life. We need to understand our fathers, our dads. If we can just simply obey a single command of theirs then they can bring the whole world for us. That’s what we always expect from our dads right? We need to understand their loving heart.
With our mothers: mothers! They can stand against the worst enemies for us. Isn’t it? Sometimes they stand even against our fathers to protect us from beating or scolding for our own mistakes. The sacrifices they make from the time we born till we start answering them back is unimaginable and never repayable. We need to understand their selfless heart.
With our siblings & others: India is such a country where we have so many relatives live together under one roof apart from our parents and siblings. Siblings (and other relatives) are always come handy when we go through tricky situations, when we fear or feel ashamed to share certain things with our parents. Don’t use them selfishly but keep them close to your chests as life jackets.
Do we understand our relationship with our parents?
Being a help to our parents
The parents always look up to their children. They feel happy when we prosper in our studies, in our career and in life and they feel really sad and broken when we fail in everything. They feel proud when we help them fulfill their dreams by succeeding in our studies, getting a good job, and supporting them in their crisis time. So many times in their life they look up to us to help them take certain vital decisions or when they go through serious transition periods of life, i.e., retirement, death of spouse etc. I was attracted to two wonderful Bible verses in this regard. The first one says, ‘A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son grief to his mother.’ The second one says, ‘He who gathers crops in summer is a wise son, but who sleeps during harvest is a disgraceful son.’
Are we wise enough to bring joy to our parents? Are we lazy or wise to support our parents in due time? Are we a helping hand to them?
Let’s fight with the negative attitudes or situations to have peace with our family members till we live in this world.
Stay Blessed!
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)Wonderful article. I like the "understand the benefit of obedience", and I would add that there should be a benefit that is clearly describable. Wonderful common sense, profound and important topic. You done good. Excellent writing.
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