A Letter From a Messy 14 Years Old Teenager
Posted: Tuesday, July 26, 2011
by Chiradeep
e-Counseling
Date: 26th July 1989
Dear Elders,
Greetings!
I am a 14 years old lad. I study in 8th grade in a school. I love to go to school. I love my friends. I love to study hard. I always come 2nd in my class. The teachers really like me as I study well. Sometimes they scold me for not doing my home work…hee hee…; sometimes I get scolding for talking in the class…hee hee… ; and to my annoyance sometimes they scold me for nothing…I don’t like that.
Firstly, I am confused about my future. What am I going to do? I have no idea? Nobody is there to tell me or guide me. Yes! My parents and relatives are there but they are not saying anything or may be they don’t know what to say and I am shy to ask. They may say, wait for the time. I am ready to wait but wait for what? Please help me…
Secondly, I fantasize a lot. Don’t know how to get rid of that. I feel guilty of doing that. Is it bad? Am I committing any sin? Can you help me?
Thirdly, I wan…I mean ….please forgive me…actually, I…ah… ummm… I am confused about sex. How is it done? I have no idea about that? I can’t ask my parents or elders or cousins or anybody as it’s a taboo thing here in India… How does a baby come out? Please help me and forgive me for asking bad things…
Fourthly, why everybody thinks that I am still a kid? I know so many things and I want to share with others. Why there are so much of restrictions for me only? Why they scold me unnecessarily? Yes, I agree, I can’t control my voice because of my excitement when I describe something. And sometimes I get annoyed and talk back. Sometimes I disobey. But why they scold me in front of others and outsiders? Why they are against me always? Can’t they understand me and my feelings? Can’t they come down little bit to my level and think with me? I am angry. I don’t like when people don’t listen to me. Please help me…
Another weird thing I want to ask…I am feeling shy…hee hee…; actually sometimes I get attracted to this girl or that girl. I think I am in love and then I feel suppressed…but I am not sure. I don’t know how to go about it. I don’t know with whom I should share all this. Is it ok if I suppress my feelings? I am feeling depressed and frustrated sometimes. Can you help me about this matter?
Recently, I accepted Jesus as my God and Saviour. But I still can’t leave few addictions which I know are wrong in His sight. What can I do? If I share it with my parents and relatives about my addictions, they may restrict me more from doing many things. I am scared. Please advice me on this matter too.
Lastly, do my parents and other relatives really care about me? Why they put so many shackles around me? Do they really love me? I know they do butttt… thennn…ahhh…I am confused…
Please please please….I need your help urgently. Please don’t mind about all what I shared. Please advice me on the above confusions and questions that I am facing and going through. I have so many more things to share which I can do later after I get a satisfactory reply from you all…but these are the major confusions and queries I have right now…
Anticipating a reply from you all soon,
Thanks,
Yours’ Sincerely
Chiradeep
(NOTE: My parents & elders were great and they cared about me a lot that time but it was just that generation gap which came in between us. Today, I would love to give counseling to the teenagers on these matters which I really struggled to get in time, when I was 14)
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)WRitten with a heart, and clearly descriptive of the plight of the adolescent, and then indeed the natural complication of religion. Oh, its all so confusing. Good job.Thanks Chris, for reading and commenting...I appreciate that very much...
Presently I am writing a book on youth and its battles...will definitely be published soon...
Regards, Chiradeep
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