The Healing Power of Humility & Forgiveness
Posted: Saturday, July 16, 2011
by Chiradeep
e-Counseling
"A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control." (Proverbs 29:11, NIV)
I had not understood the healing power of humility and forgiveness till that incident which really changed my thinking.
I was a college going student that time, may be of 19/20 years old. I used to play with my neighboring kids who were staying in our paternal houses on rent. There were almost 10 families who were staying on rent. There was one family of a husband, a wife, and a small kid. The husband was a private electrician. Financially they were not well to do. All these tenants were always grateful to all of our families for allowing them to stay with a low rent. We were all respected in front of them
Once what happened we were playing cricket on the small yard in front of their houses. And it was somehow obstructing this man’s work which we all didn’t know. Suddenly while we were busy playing he started scolding the kids indirectly indicating me. I just looked at his face. He was not looking at me but indirectly was talking to me. We stopped playing and I went back to my home little ahead of that yard.
I got my hands and legs washed up. But my mind was stuck there with that man. I was burning inside. My heart was pounding and I was feeling heavy as my anger was rising to the highest point. I could not concentrate on any of my works. I was roving furiously in my home. My mom asked what happened. I just avoided her. But my anger was growing inside me. I could not accept a low status man to scold me even if it was indirectly.
The time passed by. But my rage was not controlled. I was restless. I was suffering inside because of the anger which was literally burning my heart inside. I could not resist anymore. I felt like hitting that man on his face. I felt like shouting at him. But I know it’s not possible because of my family members. They will scold me back for confronting an outsider and that to he was quite older to me. It was intolerable.
Finally I decided, I will go and ask him on his face. I will confront him with humility. I will ask him about my mistake. I went straight to their house. I saw him standing in front of his house. I just gave a nod to him.
I just calmly asked him, “brother…what was my fault that you scolded all indicating me indirectly…which was hurting…”
He held my hands with his and said, “no no…I never intended that against you…I was annoyed because my work was getting interrupted and I was frustrated for my personal problems…I am so sorry, I hurt you…”
I smiled and said, “no no…don’t say sorry. It’s ok that I came and asked you as I was feeling bad.”
We both shook hands and I came back home relieved. There was peace and calmness ruling in my heart, mind, and even body when I forgave him. I got healing holistically. I came to know the power of simple humility and forgiveness which really transformed me from a raging bull to a cool and calm dove.
I thanked God for not allowing me to be a fool and teaching me such a powerful lesson in life which I remember even today.
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