Unwanted Pregnancy? Tips To Survive: Part - III
Posted: Thursday, September 23, 2010
by Chiradeep
e-Counseling
The audio version of this article is available. Just press play.
Last time we have dealt with ‘why abstinence,’ in the Part-II of this subject and we came to the conclusion that abstinence is better than gulping the wonder pills and getting sick forever. Continuing with the same topic, ‘why abstinence,’ I will share how unwanted or teenage pregnancy creates havoc on the inner health of a teenage girl.
Sudden Mental Shock: It’s really very difficult for a teen when she come to know that she is pregnant. She gets a sudden mental shock. It becomes hard for her gulp the fact. Normally a married woman feel scared when she gets to know about this condition then forget about a teen, who usually not prepared mentally for such a condition.
Difficulty in Disclosing: Above the sudden shock of getting pregnant the major problem is she doesn’t find it an easy mater to disclose to anybody, as she fears of shunning from the family members, she fears of loosing social image among her friends or neighbors.
Confusing Mental State: When she could not disclose this matter to anybody, she feels confused about what to do next as she is naïve of all these matters. She gets confused of whether to keep the baby or abort it. If she finally discloses her matter to her family members also she gets pressurized enormously on both the aspects of her confusion, ‘keeping the baby or aborting it.’
Career at Stake: When a teenager gets pregnant just imagine what can happen to her career. She will be shameful to go to her school or college for the feeling of shame or fear of losing her image. Her studies will be hampered, career choices will be hampered and she will be in disaster.
Heavy Burden on Shoulder: A teenage is a time when girls and boys play, study, have fun with their friends, go to picnic, celebrate birthdays, new years, and festivals. Just imagine when the play time of a teenage girl suddenly gets over and a heavy responsibility of child bearing comes on her shoulder. The sudden change in her social responsibilities hampered a normal flow of life style and many more. Her time of play becomes a time of burden and cumbersome.
Mental Sickness: It has been surveyed and found that the teenage mothers are at a high risk of experiencing stress, depression, anxiety disorder, resentment and feelings of failure because of unwanted and untimely pregnancy.
We can say, the baby should be dropped or aborted.
Problems Solved!
NO!
It never ends here. According to AbortionFacts.com “…a pregnancy resulting in an abortion can have long-term psychological effects like, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, extreme regret, sleep disorders, and anxiety disorders…"
Physical Changes & Sickness: There will also be complications like toxemia and anemia also. Anemia is complication where the patient suffers from lack of blood in the body. And the web definition of Toxemia is “ a condition in pregnant women in which poisons such as the body's own waste products build up and may cause harm to both the mother and baby"
A teenager girl supposed to be a beautiful model in making. I mean to say, she should take care of her body more at this age as she matures physically and gets beautiful shapes & curves. But the unwanted pregnancy can destroy her beauty consciousness. Pregnancy brings numerous changes in the physical body of a teenage girl. She will gain weight, her skin will be stretched out etc.
A Child Born in Lack of Love, Warmth & Security: Just imagine about the child which will be born to a teenage girl. It comes out from a immature mom’s womb who is scared to have it. It gets an unwanted birth. There is no love involved in the birth of that child. If the father of that child doesn’t agree to accept the girl or if the girl doesn’t get family support for this child then the child will be born and brought up in lack of security. And we know security can be of many types. It may be emotional, familial, parental and financial.
I feel so disturbed when I think of a teenage girl going through all these because of an unwanted pregnancy. It’s better if she enjoys her teenage and youth instead of getting burdened. It’s better if she study hard and pursue a career she desires instead of being called as a ‘young mom.’ At last I would love to conclude by saying that, ‘it’s better for her to abstain from sex rather than going through such pain and suffering during her teenage and youthful period.
May God bless.
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Top-level comments on this article: (9 total)Well done for doing audio! I think something has gone wrong, though, as it's only playing the first couple of sentences. Perhaps you want to check it.I wish all teenage girls could follow your advice.Thanks Jen! I wish the same.My mp3 converter is a free version software. It converts half. I tried to copy the only the first paragraph but it did 50%. I will get a better software soon.
I knew I would have an article of yours to read that rated a 5 :)I am not naive enough to think that all teenagers will abstain from sex. However there is nothing wrong with reminding them that they will have a lifetime ahead of them to pursue that action as an adult. Show them that taking the time to enjoy these years is a much better thing to do than trying to engage in adult activities. And if they persist on trying, help your child know what the best method is to keep them safe and healthy.GraceWell said Grace. You added value to the article. Thank you so much for your valuable inputs & sweet comment.CP
You described a situation of a pregnant girl helpless Indian teen. The audio version of this article is excellant.Thanks you, sir, for sharing.Thanks Gaurav, for that sweet comment.
Abstinence would be the preferred method of dealing with unwanted/unplanned pregnancies. However, in today's world that doesn't seem very practical. I don't pretend to have the answer, but I seriously doubt that pushing for abstinence is the answer.Ma'am, with due respect, I appreciate your reading & commenting, but just saying 'Abstinence' as not practical today does not help. Would you please explain why and how you feel it is so?
Hey!! This is truely a very nice article which can get back teenager girls who get victimized here.... a good tought with a good article...Thanks for commenting....I really appreciate for youth like you commenting in favour of this article...God bless you...
This is good to read especially for young girls so they will know what could be the effects of unwanted pregnancy. Discipline to once self also plays an important part to prevent teenage pregnancies. Thank you for posting this article.Barbara! Thanks for commenting.
You added value to the article...
May God bless you....
Well done. Heart felt. Organized. Professional and Personal. This is a resoundingly powerful article that you should be very proud of. People don't tend to think of this in the depth that they should. We just curl up in a knot of sadness and stop feeling. Well handled topic.Well said, Sir.
I am honoured by your praises...Thanks a lot for adding value to my article...May God be with you...
Good article Chiradeep. Hopefully this article will be seen by many young girls before they become pregnant. It could save them a lot of heartache.Even I hope and pray the same Linda...
Thanks for commenting...
For a man you certainly got into the head of a young girl very well. Preganancy is not simply a change in the body but it's also the beginning of a life long commitment. More teenagers need to realize that. Good article.Thanks Dixie...let me inform you something...there are many old articles awaiting your comments, as you desired to read more of my articles....and thanks for joining my fan club...I am feeling like a celebrity...lol...thanks again...
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