How To Enjoy Our Loneliness?
Posted: Wednesday, September 15, 2010
by Chiradeep
e-Counseling
Loneliness is defined by the web dictionary as, “a feeling in which people experience a strong sense of emptiness and solitude. Loneliness is often compared to feeling empty, unwanted, and unimportant. Someone who is lonely may find it hard to form strong interpersonal relationships."
The definition itself scared me, as I am cheerful person, love interaction, love crowds, highly extrovert and so on. The definition doesn’t suit to my character now, in my present mindset. But I remember when I was a teenager and was studying I suffered from loneliness a lot. But later in the life I learned to enjoy my loneliness.
Great people say, ‘’we tend to commit various sin when we are alone.’’ It is true not only in case of the teenagers but also in case of good Christians who suffer from fear and lack of practical faith in their lonely time. I have gone through that phase also. But as the time passed by, and I committed myself more Him, the spirit of God taught me how to enjoy my life in my loneliness. I don’t feel depressed, worried, or friendless when I am lonely these days. In fact I love my loneliness.
Underneath, I have given some tips to enjoy our loneliness that I have learnt through my life over the years.
Mind-set, Attitude & Loneliness
1. Playing with Hobbies
I don’t find time for others when I start working on my hobbies. I compose music, I write articles, I love cooking, I paint t-shirts, and I love listening to music. When I am engrossed with one of these I can’t be disturbed at all. And I love my hobbies and the talents God has given me.
Trust me, when we keep ourselves busy with our hobbies we won’t feel lonely at all. We should start searching and finding what we like the most in our life. We should know the talents God has given us. And we can’t give an excuse that we were not given any of the talents others have.
2. Interacting through E-mails & SMSs
There are people who find it difficult to interact. If we are one of them we should think of some other ways of interacting. Interaction is a great fun. I love it. I have some tips. First let’s check our contact list. Copy them to a word or excel file. Color them according to their importance and relationship with us and then copy them back for sending mails according to each category or color of contacts. If we send to hundred contacts, we will receive at least 30 responses definitely. That will definitely encourage us as our mail would have encouraged almost all of them when we send emails in the first place.
Send inspiring SMSs. We will get back some responses and keep interacting and encouraging that way. Once I sent a SMS to someone and he replied back, “how did you know I was going through little difficulties?" I said, ‘I don’t know. I just send a SMS as you’re in my list.’ That day I realised how important one inspiring SMS is!
3. Chatting with the Nature
I love to get mesmerized by His wonderful creation. I love to listen to the birds singing. I love to see the beauty of nature and praise God for creating it that way. The nature describes His attributes. Have we ever tried to find them? Last week I travelled by train & bus to few places. I took so many pictures of His creation. It gave me so much satisfaction that I can’t explain. And I have felt in my life that birds and animals take away our pain when we keep looking at their actions and life styles. It’s a fun watching them. We can continue chatting with His wonderful creation to keep ourselves happy in our loneliness. (The pictures of nature have been taken by me).
There may be many more tips to enjoy our loneliness. I shared what I usually do in my life. We need to change our mindset, our perspective towards life and its challenges like, ‘loneliness.’
Read, try out and enjoy loneliness. May God bless us.
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Top-level comments on this article: (6 total)Very good article and very helpful also...
CP this was inspiring! We are all alone at times by not being around others, but loneliness does not have to be a bad thing. I especially liked #3. Doing that myself as a teenager made a world of difference in my life and still does.Thank you for writing this.GraceThanks Grace for that sweet comment. Thanks for thinking it as inspiring...see you again either on my article or on yours...lol
CP, lovely thoughts. When do you sleep?Sir! I didn't get you? What do you mean by, "when do I sleep?"Thanks for your sweet comment...Regards, CP
Thanks Amrita...for that comment...I really appreciate...
I really struggle when I am alone...But I will try to be like you dear...Thanks for this wonderful article...Thanks darling for your sweet comment.
Great article Chiradeep with lots of good information. I'm not as involved with the outside world as I used to be but I do keep busy by doing pretty much the same things you do. I work at not going into depression and with God's help and my friends at Searchwarp stay positive most of the timeThat's a great attitude Linda. You're a blessing in the community and I really appreciate when you comment with your wisdom.Thanks a lot, CP
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